If we scratch our mutual self righteousness, we may find emotions which are human enough, but perhaps not as lofty as our stated intentions ; things like fear and pride ; even a certain angry lust for combat. When we act on these emotions willfully, we do things of which we'll later be ashamed. And together one and all, we find ourselves in a hell of our own making.
The saying is that the truth will make us free. If we really want to resolve this issue for the best, we'll need to learn to live with open questions, and pursue the truth wherever it should lead. It can be a huge relief to let go and just explore that path. We may find that by enlarging our view, we can find ways to adjust our positions ; and that we discover the goodwill which makes a way forward possible. The following is an effort in that direction :
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